What you’re about to learn are four simple hacks that will make you instantly more likable person which is an extremely valuable skill to have.
So many people underestimate the importance of being likable, not realizing that the entire world runs on relationships.
In fact, I recently learned that out of all the things that will make you happy in life it was personal relationships with other people that brought more happiness than money, career, or any other factor.
I’ve said this before and I’m going to say it again because it is so incredibly important. Any material thing that you could ever want in life is already owned by somebody else.
All the cash money that you could ever want is already in somebody else’s bank account or somebody else’s pocket. But it is not just money and material things.
Somewhere on the planet, some other person has already mastered the skill that you want to learn and there’s also somebody who already holds all the wisdom or the knowledge that you can ever want.
To get these things from other people you have to be somebody that they like. Think about this, if somebody doesn’t like you then they’re not gonna give you their money and if somebody doesn’t like you then they’re not gonna give you their time to teach you their skill or wisdom so the more likable of a person that you can become the more likely it is that you will be able to get exactly what it is that you want out of life from other people.
The first hack to becoming more likable is called mirroring and matching
Brilliant men all of the world have studied human behavior and some of the things that they have found are fascinating.
One of the things that they discovered is that when a person likes another person they tend to mirror and match that person in terms of body language and energy.
Something really important to understand is this. Every single person on the planet likes people who are like them or who are like someone that they would like to become.
Think about your favorite character from the movies, why do you like this person?
The reason why you like this person is that they are like you in one or more ways or it is because they are the type of person that you would like to become.
It’s really that simple so by mirroring and matching another person in terms of how they stand or speak you will become a more likable person.
But it is also important to mirror their energy and buy energy I simply mean what are they putting out while they putting out low medium or high energy.
People in sales do this all the time and mirroring is an extremely effective way to build rapport with the person to who you are trying to sell something because it simply works.
The second hack to becoming a more likable person is projecting positive energy
We all know that person in our life who is always complaining and always being negative about something. And you could give this person every single thing that they could ever want in life and they would still find something to complain about because they are simply stuck in a negative thinking pattern.
What you have to understand is that our energy is like the wind, you can’t see it other people can’t see it but everybody knows that it’s there.
When you project positive energy it is like a giant gust of wind that pulls people towards you and makes people actually want to be around you and when you project negative energy it’s like a huge gust of wind that pushes people away from you.
Think about someone that you’ve known who has always been negative about everything and think about how much time you want to spend around this person and if you’re like most people you probably don’t want to spend any time around this person unless you are a negative person yourself.
The truth is that we can’t be positive 100 percent of the time but if you can be positive and upbeat about pretty much everything at least 80percent of the time then you will become a much more likable person.
The third hack to becoming a person that most people like is to be vulnerable
The problem with society today is that vulnerability is commonly viewed as weakness especially in the case of men and this happens because people don’t actually understand what it means to be vulnerable.
Being vulnerable doesn’t mean that you should go around crying when something bad happens.
What it really means to be vulnerable is to not be afraid to take risks. For example, don’t be afraid to tell a joke that it might not be funny.
Being vulnerable is putting yourself in a position where you could be rejected by somebody and the reason why being vulnerable makes you a more likable person is because it takes courage to be vulnerable and it takes courage to take risks during social situations and it also takes courage to put yourself out there.
For example, imagine you’re trying to build rapport with somebody that you’re trying to get to buy something from you and you share with him something in your past that you usually don’t share with anyone because it’s so embarrassing. This is one of the best examples of being vulnerable and when you’re able to do this it causes other people to view you as a more authentic more real person.
The fourth hack to becoming a more likable person is having a sense of humor
I know this sounds like really common advice, but you would be completely blown away by the number of people who have trouble with other people not liking them and they never actually find out that other people don’t like them simply because they don’t have a sense of humor.
Think about that employee at the store that you went to before who was pretty much a human-robot when it comes to humor.
This person was super serious all the time and even after trying to crack several jokes they never laughed not even once.
You probably thought to yourself man there’s something that I just don’t like about this person and you wouldn’t be alone to think that.
Humor is a very powerful force that should never be underestimated and if you look at some of the most likable men in the world you will find that most of these men have a great sense of humor and even if they can’t make you laugh they will at least laugh at the things that you say.
The best way to develop your sense of humor is to watch or read things that are funny so in other words, spend more time looking for fun and try to add more humor to your everyday life.
If there’s one thing that you can take from this post I want you to remember that the true currency of this world is not paper bills or gold bars, but instead it is relationships and one of the easiest ways to build more and better relationships is to become a more likable person.