Is dating easier when you lose weight? As much as I hate to say it, the answer is yes. As people conform to societal norms and stereotypes of what is considered attractive, anyone not fitting the ‘vision’ of normal will find dating hard. So if you are overweight, it is much harder to get a date, even if you are great fun and have a bubbling personality.
LOSING WEIGHT TO DATE
Especially if you are under 35 and overweight it is better to lose it now as it will not only improve your health, but you will find dating easier when you lose some weight. If you are a woman there are other implications, as an overweight woman has a much higher risk of infertility than a woman of average weight. So not only are you having trouble dating you may not be able to conceive, and when you look at it objectively it is time to lose some weight.
WHILE YOU ARE LOSING WEIGHT
You have made up your mind to lose some weight, and Fred who is new to your apartment block has asked you out for dinner on Saturday. This is your big chance, as you haven’t dated for 6 months, of course, you say yes ( don’t say no), and even though you wish you had started the diet earlier, there are a few things you can do to disguise the weight. It is time to sort out the wardrobe.
- Wear a black dress, preferably a straight slimline.
- If you have to, wear a body girdle.
- Make sure that what you are wearing is not too tight.
- Wear very high heels as this will extend your calves and make you look taller.
- When you are in the restaurant make healthy choices.
- While on the date don’t mention dieting, just say you are on a fitness regime, as he will probably see you jogging around the block.
WILL LOSING WEIGHT MAKE ME ATTRACTIVE?
Losing weight alone will not make you more attractive and as you probably realize you have certain attractive qualities anyway, and losing weight will enhance them.
With the event of social media, there are now so many posts and photos of slim bodies that it can become quite intimidating, and time-consuming for those posting their every move. Don’t post on social media for a while, give it a break until you have lost a few pounds, and then you will have something to post, and you will get encouragement from your Facebook group.
Work on your smile and your exercise routine and try to maintain a steady weight loss.
AFRAID TO DATE BECAUSE OF WEIGHT?
Is dating easier when you lose weight? Don’t let being overweight stop you from dating, you now have a firm plan in place and you will stick to it.
Only refuse a date if you don’t like the person who is asking you out, and even then you could go out in a group of people.
Once you start to refuse dates you can become socially isolated, and when we stay home more we tend to sit in front of the TV and eat, it is important that this does not happen, as when summer comes you want to be able to fit into that swimsuit. The busier you are both at work and socially the more likely you are to lose weight as there won’t be time to look for snacks.
WHAT TO DO WHILE YOU ARE LOSING WEIGHT AND DATING
You have decided that you quite like Fred and he must have enjoyed your company, as he has suggested another date. Try to keep your relationship casual until you have achieved your weight loss. Now is not the time to be jumping into bed with Fred as being naked is not on your agenda, yet, until you lose more weight. Be a bit mysterious and don’t take your relationship to the next level, you are not yet ready for that level of intimacy.
What you need to do now is to prepare yourself mentally for being slim. If you have been overweight for the last 15 or 20 years, it is now time to change your mindset.
THINKING LIKE A SLIM PERSON
Whether you are male or female this is important, thinking thin is changing your negative thoughts about your body image. When you have struggled with your weight for a while you need to look closely at the way you are thinking. Here are some things to do to think thin:
- Picture yourself thin
- Set small goals
- Get a support person.
- Create a written plan
- Factor in rewards (clothing).
- Lose some old habits ( no coffee and cake at 1100, just coffee).
A girl I know quite well went to one session of hypnotherapy to positively reinforce her new behavior pattern, and she insists that it worked for her.
If you have a good friend to offer you some support, this works well too, as when you feel you are weakening and may start eating the wrong thing you can ring them up for support.
If you live with Mum and Dad, you will have to talk to them about your need to lose weight, otherwise mum might sabotage you with her amazing cooking, so set a few limits around what you want to eat, and offer to cook for her once a week.
STAYING ON TRACK WHEN DATING AND SLIMMING DOWN
Try to stay on track until you reach your goals. By now you will have gained a lot of confidence, and you will certainly get lots of offers of dates.
This has not happened overnight and can sometimes take 6-12 months. You now realize that dating is easier when you lose weight and you plan to keep it off because you feel so much healthier and happier. Probably the best thing about it is the benefits of becoming more confident that comes from being the best version of yourself, and it is worth working hard to maintain the ‘new you’ for as long as possible.