If you’ve ever been in a situation where you’ve been talking to a girl and she suddenly stops replying, you know how frustrating it can be. It can feel like she’s ghosted you, and you may not know what to do next. In this article, we’ll discuss some tips on how to handle the situation when a girl you’ve been talking to suddenly stops replying.
It’s totally frustrating when you get a woman’s number and she seems interested, but then after only a few texts, she loses interest or goes cold.
The natural impulse is to cast blame on the woman. “She’s a flake…” But if you do that, you might be missing out on a major flaw in YOUR GAME that is far simpler to correct than you realize. In reality, if you’re like most guys, you’re probably making just one (or a few) of these typical “texting” blunders that will kill your chances with women.
Mistake #1: Confusing Responses for Attraction
Before you go on your first date with a woman, there won’t be much of a connection between you. You’re probably not the only guy texting her, as terrible as it is.
A lot of guys get responses from girls and think that means she’s attracted to him or interested in dating.
The complete opposite is correct!
If you want to meet up with a girl, don’t overdo it on the texts. The more texts you send, the less chance you have of actually meeting her! Even if she’s RESPONDING to your texts, you’re not getting any closer to taking her out.
Whenever you’re thinking about texting a girl, try to say it more simply. Most guys texts women something meaningless like, “How’s your day?” or “Enjoying the warm weather?” These types of text messages will not get you any closer to a woman and are just asking for a response with no effort put in.
So you don’t waste any more time texting aimlessly, ask yourself this question before sending each text:
How is this message going to help me get a date with her?
If your answer is something like “so she gets to know me better,” delete the message. It won’t do you any good.
Mistake #2: Not Transmitting “Fun”
Here’s a basic truth: when a lady gives you her phone number, she is not entering into a social agreement to go out with you.
If it doesn’t appear fun to her, she more than likely won’t want to bother seeing you.
You’re not worth her time if you send bland texts that don’t express any personality or elicit any feelings in her.
Most men make the mistake of being too serious and end up pushing women away with their lack of humor and lightheartedness. If you want to get a date with her, you have to be more fun than anyone else she’s talking to.
Here are some signs you’re not being fun:
– Is this too formal “Hey it was great to meet you on Friday”…… (better, but still a little stiff)
– Am I putting pressure on her to keep the convo going?
– Am I badgering her with questions?
– Am I sending texts that are too long or boring?
You want to come off as the fun option, not the dry one. The goal is to be her escape from a tedious day. When you text her, you should be adding value to her life, not draining it.
The third mistake people make is not developing a texting style
When you’re texting an attractive woman, chances are high that you’re not the only man sending her a text today.
Hate to break it to you.
But she’s got a lot of guys vying for her attention, including other guys who are pursuing her, ex-boyfriends, co-workers, and classmates.
So, if you want to make a statement with your writing, it must reflect your own style and personality.
She should be able to know that the text is from you just by reading it, even if the name was blocked. What words, phrases, punctuation marks, or emoticons are uniquely yours?
The fourth biggest mistake you can make is having long text conversations
Text conversations are not the same as real conversations.
Texting should be the “Super cool” quick summary of ordinary conversations. Leave out all of the formalities, in other words.
The longer the chat, the more opportunities there are to screw things up or get caught in a web of misunderstandings.
Every time you text someone, start with something interesting so that they will pay attention to you. You can start with an anecdote or a nickname that teases them. Find a way to quickly make them feel emotion so that they will listen to you.
In my latest video, I explain how you can complete everything on your to-do list with just three simple texts.
– Response does not mean interest
– Your texts should be fun and interesting
– Develop your own texting style
– Keep text conversations short
Follow these simple tips and you’ll be sure to impress any girl.